What I do here…
The work I do here (and especially here) is rooted in belonging, perception, and inequity. That’s the foundation, everything will branch from here. My hope is that you feed off the fruit of these roots, taking what you have learned here, and plant your own seeds in your community and continue the work I have started here.
From the beginning, I have always been an advocate without a home, only I didn’t know it at the time. A place to belong is where I started this journey, and once I understood why I had no place, I began to work on why this (Autism) community wasn’t home. Through this work I discovered that I would never truly fit here whole, because this community serves those broken. Not broken in mind or spirit or emotionally per se. I mean broken in identity. This community attempts to serve factions as part of its advocacy. The Autism Parent, The Autistic Person, The Neurodivergent, The Professional, The Researcher, etc.
we are never really one thing. We exist as ALL of who we are, simultaneously. A broken community serving the whole person? This won’t ever make sense. I never quite fit within the Autism Community because it wasn’t representative of who I was and therefore, not inclusive. It still isn’t. But I no longer feel the burden is on me to heal the divide here. I work to create a sense of place within ourselves and project our “home” outward, pulling in souls who seek to be near our light and feel its warmth.
I will challenge your perception of Autism. I don’t subscribe to the belief that Autism is this lifelong drain on your existence or that of your child. However, I also recognize that Autism can be challenging. But I do not have a side. I don’t carry a banner for the parents nor the Neurodiverse. I occupy all sides. I wear many hats. I use stories to tell of my journey with Autism and that of my boys. There won’t be a class on Autism here, I won’t use this space to educate you on what Autism is. You won’t find that I speak of Autism in an academic way, not often. It is important to me as a storyteller to lay out everything without lecturing, it feels too forced. If I am to let you know more of who I am, what I am about, and what I do here, I need to be in full control of how I share. I need complete and total freedom to talk about my humanity in its entirety. I won’t reach you through professorial writings on Autism, I will reach you through a story.
Changing your perception on Autism is vital to this work because ableism is strongest in the dark, and it is also the cause of darkness. You cannot fight ableism if you hold onto views reflective of it….if you live in the dark.
It’s not enough for you to say you are feminist or anti-racist or anti-ableist or even an ally. Right now these terms are trending. It’s as if it’s considered cool if you are part of these “clubs.” And membership only requires that you call yourself one, and you’re in. But that’s not how this is supposed to work.
You can’t claim anti-racism or feminism or allyship and be done with it. What do those terms really mean? What does it mean to be feminist? Anti-racist? Anti-ableist? An ally?
When y’all come to me and say you’re an ally, I honestly look at your messages with skepticism. Mostly I think, “you don’t truly know what that means.” When you say you’re anti-racist, am I to believe that you’re an ally because you said so? How far are you willing to go? And trust me, arguing with your family and friends on Facebook isn’t it, though it’s a start.
Are you going to show up for and in the communities you claim to help?
There’s a real danger in the commodification of these movements and it’s bothering me. I hope that it bothers you. It’s feeling more trendy and devoid of meaning. We cannot allow that to happen.
If you are familiar with some of my work on my social media platforms then you would know that my work centers on Intersectionality. Blackness and Autism is what I primarily focus on but the concept runs deep. Through an Intersectional lens, this is where my work will attempt to dismantle social inequity.
Intersectionality involves looking at the whole of our lives and examining the issues that impacts us the most. This includes racism, discrimination based on sexual orientation, disability, socioeconomic opportunities, environmental issues, and more.
This is what I do here. I look at ALL the issues that affect our lives and I find ways to combat them. Storytelling and education are the best ways for me to do this work. Storytelling IS education for me.
I want everyone to stop speaking for their own group and speak up for others. As a Black Autistic advocate for Autism matters, I was often speaking for demographics outside of my own. Telling their stories and fighting for their families. This is the nature of being a member of a marginalized group. You exist within supremacist frameworks and you have to learn a system that wasn’t designed with you in mind, hoping to do just enough so that the fruit of your work somehow ends up on your table.
My objectives here…
I want someone to walk away from having absorbed my content with a passion for advocacy that extends beyond what their focus was. I want them to leave with a NEW focus. My mission is to inspire accomplices and to ensure that your advocacy efforts are intersectional.
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