My name is Tiffany aka Tiffy.
I’m the voice behind Fidgets and Fries.
Depending on how weird you are, I’m either going to be the best person you have never met…or you’re going to swear off people for the rest of your days.
Creating this “About Me” page has been the most challenging part of this site. I have cried over bottles of wine trying to come up with the right thing to say. I mean, I heard this page is the most visited one on any site, and I don’t handle pressure well, so…picture, lots of tears. Lots of bourbon. Lots of stress eating. I spent so much time researching how to write a “kickass” ‘About Me’ page and they weren’t any help. At all.
I’m a writer, who can’t write an “About Me” page. Make it make sense.
I decided to just sit down and do it. “Just write something, damn Tiffy,” I would tell myself.
So let’s go…learn a little something about your gal.
Who am I?
Meh, I don’t even know. I am still trying to figure that out. If you are here from any of my social profiles, then you would know that I am currently on a journey of self-discovery. So I am still figuring myself out. You would also know that I don’t like to write about myself, hence why it’s taken so long to write this page, and why I’m having the darndest time doing so.
My activism is rooted in challenging the current perception of Autism as being a lifelong burden, cultivating a community that explores the intersectional advocacy, and inspiring thought leaders through storytelling, education, and critical discourse.
What exactly does this mean?
This means that I want to change the conversations surrounding Autism from being one of doom and gloom to one of hope. To society, Autism presents itself as young, white boy and voices like mine are drowned out in this community. The challenges of those with intersectional identities are often dismissed or worse, don’t even register as issues facing this community. I advocate to show that voices like mine are just as valid and that the needs of the minority within a minority group should be addressed and not treated as something that will eventually be resolved through some kind of trickle down effect from addressing the needs of the larger group. Lastly, I am a writer. I tell stories. I write poems. I educate. I entertain. I inspire. And through my writing I aim to change others perspectives on Autism. I want to inspire people to want to be their own thought leaders and not follow the pack. I don’t lecture parents. I feel as though I can inform you of our experiences with Autism through storytelling. I will challenge you with my posts. Pull you from your safety zone and make you uncomfortable.
Growth doesn’t occur in the comfort zone. And I want you to grow not only in your perspective on Autism, but in your advocacy, and in your inclusion of voices like mine within the community.
Whether you are new to this journey or have been walking this path for years, you are in the right place. You’re home.
And because you are here, that tells me that you’re ready to experience Autism in a completely different way. Or you’re looking to find a community who shares your same optimism.
I help parents find their footing on this journey.
I don’t engage in sides, I don’t have a side. I occupy all sides, simultaneously and I let each of my identities inform my life.
Your being here tells me that:
- you are ready to change your views on Autism (or you already have);
- you want to expand your advocacy;
- you want to be an ally to those of overlapping identities of oppression
- don’t know exactly how to change your perspective or you don’t know how beneficial doing so would be;
- you want to be an advocate but you don’t know where to start;
- you want to be an ally but you don’t know how to go about it;
- just need some help along this journey;
- feel isolated and need a community to relate to you and your family’s life
No matter where you are on this journey, you are looking for something more and you’re in luck, because I’m confident that I have what you’re looking for.
I also share more of my life outside of advocacy and community building. I am more than just an advocate and in this space I want to share more of that side of myself.
Also, I’m like the Queen of Weird and Awesome, and surely that’s worth sticking around for, right?